Why Does The Law Of Attraction Not Work For Me?? – 3 Game-Changing Tips

Is this your question?:
Why does the law of attraction not work for me??

or is it more like a statement in your head:
The Law of Attraction doesn’t work for me!!

When I started to read about the law of attraction my question was: Why doesn’t everybody use the Law of Attraction if it is as simple as all the gurus say?

Here I will share some of the underlying problems that I found is the reason for many people to not attract what they like.

To make real change you have to understand the underlying problems.

That can be:
1. Lack of information
2. You have traumas from earlier in your life
3. Your subconscious mind attract different things then you want

I know it can be really frustrating to keep ending up in the same situations.
I will give you some guidance and help you to understand what the problem might be.


The Subconscious Mind

What is the subconscious mind?

If you ask people what the Mind actually is, you will get a ton of ideas and opinions. 

I will make it easy and we can do a deeper discussion about this in some other post if you like, but for now, let’s say this:

-Very easy described the mind store everything you ever learned during your whole life. How to walk, how to talk, imagination, memories, thought, behaver, judgment, senses and a lot more.

Things you learned to believed when you were a kid is stored in your mind. Some in the Conscious mind and some in the Subconscious mind.

The subconscious mind and the conscious mind are actually the same.
The problem is that you can not be aware of too much information at ones, that would be overwhelming, so the brain gives you a piece at a time. We call this the conscious mind.
This means that when you are aware (can think of it) of something it is called the Conscious mind.

Everything that you are not aware of is called the subconscious mind.
Some information goes at about-pilot in the subconscious mind.
This is often where the problem lies.

When you what to attract something through the Law of Attraction a lot of the gurus just tell you to “think of what you like to have” and “feel it deep”.

The problem is that you only can “think” with the conscious mind.

The universe will give you everything you ask including things from the Subconscious mind. This is very easy to forget.

It is said that 95% is the subconscious mind, so if you want to attract something it seems to be no real chance.

Well, there is.

But sometimes you have to work for it.

You have to deal with all the things that are in the way. Dig deep. Forgive, accept, discuss and sometimes just notice.
Once you dealt with it, your subconscious mind will not make a big deal about it and you can attract the things you like.

The first person who made me realize the importance of the subconscious mind was Bob Proctor and for that I´m am very grateful. I was at his program “The art of Goal Acivning” (before called Paradigm Shift) and wow(!!), I just couldn’t believe how much I learned over just one weekend.

I will write further down how you can deal with things in your subconscious mind.

Now, knowledge, or that lack of it:

The Seven Hermetic Laws

Some times it is that lack of the bigger picture or enough information that is the problem.


Why Does The Law Of Attraction Not Work For Me

I like to introduce you to the 7 hermetic laws that probably will give much meaning to you once you get it.

These laws are actually more of principles.  Some say there are 12 and some say there are 50. I say these seven is enough and will provide you with everything you need for the bigger picture.

When you understand these seven laws/principles it makes much sense and it will help you very much.

What many people don’t know is that the Law of Attraction actually is a part of one other law. The Law of Vibration. And that the Law of Attraction is a sub-law and depending on the other laws.

I recommend you to start reading about the Law of Polarity. This one is often the one that gives the most value when you are stuck. If this is not the case for you, read them all and try to understand them.

Your Childhood

Your childhood affects you more than you probably understand. At least this was the case for me.

Why Does The Law Of Attraction Not Work For Me

I’ve been to a holistic coach who forced me to meet my 2-year me and this was a shift that’s made my self-esteem go from almost zero to actually quite good in just a moment.

If you ever get the opportunity to go to a therapist/coach that works with the body and not only your thoughts – do it! You need someone that forces you to meet your inner child.

All of us have traumas. Some people have bigger and some have smaller, but we all have them.

When this coach that I met forced me to meet my two-year-old Ellen I have to say this is one of the scariest situations in my life. Also it was the best thing ever!

It just changed me. Right there in that moment. Things that I earlier thought was wrong with me just made so much sense. I could understand why I acted in different kind of ways. I could see the bigger picture and it has helped me since.

What should you do?

First of all, you need to understand that it’s so much bigger than only asking and the receiving.

The subconscious mind is there all the time and it will attract things for you even if you don’t know about it.

The only way to go is actually to meet yourself.

Why Does The Law Of Attraction Not Work For Me

When you meet yourself on a deep level and dealing with all these things that you have in your subconscious mind then you can start attracting things you actually want.

I recommend you to read about the Seven Hermetic Laws.  These laws will help you to understand things you don´t know. If you change things due to these laws it can change the outcome of your wishes.

This is what I did!

1. I started to go to a holistic coach. This opened up my curiosity.Why Does The Law Of Attraction Not Work For Me

2. I read a lot.
And when I say a lot I mean  A LOT!

For a long period, I put all of my free nights to understand how everything is connected and how these things work, what is right and what is wrong.

3. I invested in the information from leaders who know this stuff for real.

I only invested in books or programs where there were many people who said it worked. Only then I could be sure it was worth investing in.

And I am happy I did because I learned so much!

–> Read here about the program that literally changed my life: “The art of Goal Acivning” (before called Paradigm Shift) <–


There are some books that I really recommend you to read if you haven’t read it yet.

  1. “The Secret” by Rhonda Byrne

If you haven’t read the book or watched the movie, this book/movie will give you a good start to understand the Law of Attraction.

2.  “No matter what” or/and “Abundance now” by Lisa Nichols.

If you want to deal with yourself then you need some self-development! Both of these books are very good. They force you to take action and this will help you a lot in your progress. Lisa Nichols is for sure one of my favorites and her energy is amazing!

She has been struggling a lot in her life and she knows how difficult the journey can be.  One thing I really like about Lisa is that she does not talk so much about money which a lot of other leaders. Instead, she talks about the importance to see the whole life and everything in it.

Online programs:

My absolute favorite for learning about the Law of Attraction is Bob Proctor.
He has been studying the Law of Attraction and the other laws for 60 years and he is for sure a master at this subject! He knows so much, his classes are very easy to understand and you can feel your own growths almost instantly!

If you really want to learn about the law of attraction, go to Bob Proctor!

Here are two great ways you can start learning from him

The Art of Goal Achieving (before called Paradigm shift seminar) – A live seminar. This is one weekend and you will be amazed by how much you will learn!

paradigm shift


Six Minutes of Success – Everyday for one year you get a video every morning. Piece by peice you will master the art of attracting.



I hope these tips could help you and that you know got a deeper understanding! Please comment if you have questions or want to discuss something. I am happy to help and wish you a great day!



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